Congratulations mama! You had a baby! No matter how you came to have this baby, though this is such a joyful time in your life, it can also be incredibly disorienting.
When I had my first, I was flooded with so many emotions I wasn’t prepared for. I expected to feel joy. I expected my baby to do what the books told me she would do. I expected I would bounce right back to my pre-baby body (I was actually confused when someone told me to bring my maternity clothes to the hospital. I fully expected the baby to come out and my body to be magically restored 🤪).
I wasn’t prepared for the identity crisis that would follow.
I wasn’t prepared for the mental health crisis I went through.
I wasn’t prepared for the feelings of resentment, of regret, of utter exhaustion, of separation from myself and my partner, of inadequacy.
I wasn’t prepared for how long it would take for my body to recover.
There were many things I wasn’t prepared for, and I suffered in silenced, afraid to tell anyone how I was really feeling, mostly because I wasn’t quite certain of my feelings about anything at any given moment of the day.
I came to find out later – years later – that I had postpartum anxiety.
I also had a condition called diastasis recti (where your abdominal muscles separate and don’t come back together), which wasn’t diagnosed for a full year after I had my first. It took me a lot of Google doctoring to find out what was wrong, and then to find a pelvic health physical therapist who could help me.
I needed the kind of support I didn’t have. The kind I’d like to give to you.
In our time together, we will discuss some of the following topics:
1. The myth of bouncing back (your body and your life has changed. Forever. There is no bouncing back. There is only bouncing forward).
2. The mental health crisis that can (and often does) occur when you become a mom (we’ll discuss the biological and hormonal reasons for this, and we’ll go over the baby blues, postpartum anxiety, depression, etc.)
3. How to navigate your new identity as you have now become a mom.
4. Navigating your postpartum body (incontinence, diastasis, prolapse, etc.) and providers who can help you heal.
5. The importance of emotional support from either a coach or a therapist (or both) for both yourself and you and your partner as a team.
6. The importance of having a conversation about the division of labor in your new household.
7. If you have more than one, how to navigate the grief of going from one to two (or more).
8. Mom guilt and rage and how to deal with it.
9. Parenting philosophies and trying on what’s right for you.
10. Postpartum exercise and nutrition.
And much more.
If you’ve had a baby within the last year and you need some support, let’s talk. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or else sign up for a time slot below and we can hop on a call for a free consultation. It’s going to be ok, mama. I’ve got you 💜