Passion, Purpose & Navigating Motherhood: Awakening Moms to Their True Potential
EPISODE: 32 | DATE: March 4, 2021
“Unless we want our children to grow up to always put themselves last and always live well below their purpose and always live well below their potential, we need to make some changes.”
- Maxine Nwaneri is a global success coach, #1 International Bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of The Future is Greater, a company that helps moms who want more from life.
- They help moms create time to do what they want for themselves without feeling guilty and worrying about the never ending to do list.
- They work with individual moms as well as corporate clients to achieve work life “balance.”
- They have a membership program, personalized coaching, and other services
- Moms make the best employees because they know how to get a lot done in not a lot of time.
- Maxine coaches moms to focus on output rather than on time. So rather than work an 8 hour day, they focus on what they need to accomplish. Oftentimes they can get what they need done in an hour versus an 8 hour work day.
- Focus on delivering the output consistently.
- Maxine was a high flying executive who literally flew all over the world closing big deals before she became a mother. When she became a mom, she wasn’t sure how she was going to get through it. She wanted to be a good mother but she wasn’t finding it fulfilling.
- She felt angry and resentful and then she started to feel angry and resentful about feeling that way. Because she “should” have been happy.
- Maxine tells moms: do not put yourself last. Don’t die trying to take care of people! If you’re burnt out, you’re not good to anyone.
- Our kids are watching, and if they see moms putting themselves last, they are going to grow up to do the same thing.
- Check in with yourself every day – even if it’s just for 15 minutes – and ask yourself what you want and what you need.
- The best advice Maxine has for moms in the pandemic trying to get everything done is: Don’t try to get everything done! You’ve got to let some things go!
- Get clear on your purpose for the day, the week or the month. Try not to think beyond that. Find out what needs to happen that’s in line with your purpose and then ditch the rest – including the guilt.
- Also, plan ahead whenever you can. Meal planning is especially helpful. Planning out your week too.
- If you’re in a relationship with someone you live with, make sure the household chores are split 50/50, even if one of you is working outside of the home and one of your is a stay at home parent. This is also great to model for your children so they can have a healthy view of gender roles for men and women.
- Co create with your partner.
- In caring for yourself, Maxine is a big advocate for getting support. Get coaches for yourself in business or otherwise. Get a therapist. Get a sleep coach to help you with your children’s sleep. Get help. Don’t reinvent the wheel. Your circumstances don’t need to consume you. So don’t let them.
- Also, your words are powerful. What we speak, we create. So try not to say anything negative to our about yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
- Another helpful piece of advice for moms trying to make it work in a pandemic is to find a supportive and positive community of moms who are going through the same thing. Seeing that you’re not alone is very helpful.
- Remember that your kids just want you to be happy, so do what you need to do for yourself to make that happen.
- Our emotions also affect our productivity, so if you’re feeling guilty or tired, you won’t be as productive. Tend to your needs before you try to do anything else so you can be in a more balanced state.
- Maxine encourages her clients to be guided internally rather than externally. And by that she means: listen to your intuition.
- When it comes to your kids, be present with them when it’s your time to be with them. As Maxine says, use technology, but don’t be used by it.
- Connect to your purpose and take care of yourself. Because if you don’t, that’s the most selfish thing you could do. Because if you’re not ok, you can’t be there for your kids.
- Don’t strive for perfection. When you make mistakes, forgive yourself quickly and move on.
- Transform your pain into power. When you do that, you change your life.
- Get productive. Cut out all of the things you don’t need to be doing. Get support. That might look like you having a boundary setting conversation or saying no to something you don’t want to do, or hiring a coach or a therapist or whatever it looks like in your life.
- Also, have compassion for yourself. That’s very important.
Maxine Nwaneri is the Founder of The Future is Greater. She is a business
consultant, certified executive coach, international speaker, and co-author of the #1 Amazon international bestselling anthology Courageous World Catalysts. Her company has helped clients on 5 continents achieve extraordinary results.
She is especially passionate about using her “Mama’s Me Time Method” to help Moms create time for themselves, so they can quit struggling with guilt, and never ending to do lists. Click here to learn more about this method.
Prior to setting up her business, Maxine obtained her MBA from Cambridge University, and acquired over 15 years’ experience in the technology and financial services industries. She is a regular and highly rated speaker and host at a variety of events including conferences, summits, and awards ceremonies.
Her work has been featured on TV and several stages and publications internationally including DiversityQ, HuffPost, Success Magazine, and Thrive Global.
She lives in London with her husband and their two kids.